“No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear… the same fluttering in the stomach, the same restlessness, the yawning. I keep on swallowing…there is a sort of invisible blanket between the world and me. I find it hard to take in what anyone says…”
– C. S. Lewis, from A Grief Observed,
a journal of his thoughts and feelings after the death of his wife, Joy
When a loved one dies no one can prepare you for your experience of grief and loss. Each person reacts uniquely to the loss of a loved one. Your pain is unique. Your bereavement is your own, and it can feel devastating.
The loss of a loved one can change your life. Even if we believe that we are strong or well-prepared, the feelings of grief can be intense. These feelings are natural – feelings of pain, longing, vulnerability, confusion, sorrow, anxiety, fear, and anger emerge at the time of your loved one’s death and often continue for many months after that.
During this time of grief, you may find that some of your relationships change. Your daily routines and roles may be altered. Your underlying assumptions about life may be temporarily transformed, or even permanently. You may face the anxiety and unexpected adventure of reshaping your life. You may not know where to turn for support, care, and help along such an uncharted journey.
The Lifesong care team is available to walk with you on your journey through grief and bereavement. We offer a variety of bereavement services, which can include the following:
We are available for counseling, companionship, or conversation — whether in person, by phone, e-mail, or postal correspondence, from the time of death to a year after your loved one’s death. A personal visit request begins with a simple phone call.
Lifesong offers a Celebration of Remembrance that is ecumenical and interfaith in perspective. We focus on remembering the meaning, purpose, and impact of your loved one’s life, regardless of religious affiliation.
You will find that Lifesong provides a safe and supportive place for bereaved people to share experiences of loss with each other, to learn from each other about ways to cope and heal, and to form new friendships.
Lifesong has a library of materials available that can help you understand and follow your journey through grief and bereavement.
- Dougy Center, The
- Light Beyond, The
- National Alliance for Grieving Children
- National Students of AMF (Actively Moving Forward; for college students)
- New York Life
- Open to Hope
- Bereaved Parents of the USA
- Compassionate Friends, The
- Twinless Twins Support Group
- A Child’s View of Grief: A Guide for Parents, Teachers, and Counselors by Alan Wolfelt
- Chicken Soup for the Grieving Soul by Jack Canfield
- Death Without Denial, Grief Without Apology: A Guide for Facing Death and Loss by Barbara K. Roberts
- Don’t Let Death Ruin Your Life: A Practical Guide to Reclaiming Happiness After the Death Of A Loved One by Jill Brooke
- Fatherless Women by Clea Simon
- Helping Adults with Mental Retardation Grieve a Death Loss by Charlene Luchterhand & Nancy Murphy
- How Do We Tell the Children? A Step-by-Step Guide for Helping Children Two to Teen Cope When Someone
Dies by Dan Schaefer and Christine Lyons
- Living When a Loved One Has Died by Earl Grollman
- Love Does Not Die – People Do by Donna Jean Robertson
- Men and Grief by Carol Staudacher
- Surviving Holidays, Birthdays, and Anniversaries by Brook Noel
- The Empty Chair by Susan J. Zonnebelt
- The Next Place by Warren Hanson
- This Time of Caregiving James E. Miller
- Tuesdays with Morrie: An Old Man, a Young Man, and Life’s Greatest Lesson by Mitch Albom
- Wednesdays at the Fluff ‘n’ Fold by Elizabeth Calbalka
- When Bad Things Happen to Good People by Ted O’Neal
- When Parents Die: A Guide for Adults by Edward Myers
Children and Teen Books
- Aarvy Aardvark Finds Hope by Donna O’Toole
- Chicken Soup for the Teenage Soul by Jack Canfield
- Coping with the Death of a Brother or Sister by Ruth Ann Ruiz
- Healing After the Suicide of a Loved One by Ann Smolin
- Helping Children Grieve & Grow by Donna O’Toole
- The 10th Good Thing About Barney by Judity Viorst
- The Fall of Freddie the Leaf by Leo Buscaglia
- You Are Not Alone: Teens Talk About Life After the Loss of a Parent by Lynn Hughes